Have you ever noticed that laughter has a way of bubbling up when you are supposed to be at your most solemn?
I don't belive that you must go to a wake or a funeral with a grief-stricken face. I personally feel that we go to celebrate our friend who has passed on, and for many people, that celebration has to include funny memories.
The man who did the eulogy for my step-son was his childhood friend. We laughed a lot at the stories he had to tell. We could easily imagine the youthful hi-jinks that went on from the tales he shared.
I'd rather have a speaker dwell on the good, and the funny memories, than feel it's inappropriate to lighten the somber air of the day. I think that it's natural to feel the laughter, and that it shouldn't be suppressed but rather, encouraged.
Yes, we feel grief at our loss. Yes, at times we express it in a solemn way, but I'd rather be remembered in a positive or a funny way, if you give me a choice. And that's how I choose to remember my step-son.
So, the next time you're at a funeral, and a bubble of laughter is threatening to well up within you, please grin, and say a prayer for my kid.
