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Maybe my father is right, maybe I AM a man-hater, I know for damn sure there is one I cannot fucking STAND!:angry WTF I was thinking when I married that man I have no clue, and is it to late to plead temporary insanity?:sad
As everyone who reads this on a regular basis knows I have an ex-husband from hell, also as most know I had to give up the addy to this domain due to disclosure in our upcoming court case, (hence the reasoning behind all the ‘fluff’ posts lately) so I have absolutely no doubt he will read this post.
Now ask me if I give a shit.
I’m actually counting on it.:rofl
So sit back and hang on, this might get a tad bit longer than what you’re used to.
Last year my oldest son was in cub scouts, no problem right?
We would both go to the meetings etc… and I actually had a clue what was going on and would talk to the other parents there (god forbid!!)
He got pissed about this, we had an argument (oh big surprise there) that ended with him saying that he did not want me involved in the boys scouting and that was HIS thing with them, and all that I was trying to do was take it over.
Bullshit
So, I backed down (again nothing new, I did it through 10

By RES

8 Replies to “enough of the ‘fluff stuff’”

  1. Great post…
    You hit the nail on the head with “I don’t try to bribe or guilt them into doing so, I am secure in my children’s love for me…which makes me wonder what is going through your head when you do those things…”
    The only thing you can do more than hate a person is to pity them…
    And this part has me wondering: “To which he said ‘yes and if she doesn’t want to share it with you…’ and left it at that.”
    I guess he’s actually saying he WANTS you to share this part of your life with your children. Hmmm… very interesting. You can’t belittle a person for not doing something and then claim they’re wrong for doing it without contradicting yourself.

  2. You left out the part of spending every afternoon reading with your kids, feeding them, getting them ready for bed and tucking them in and on nights that you don’t have them, that they call you several times in the evening to make sure you are okay and to just say they love you. Yes sounds like a sure dead ringer of a bad mother *rolling eyes*. You summed it up best with BULLSHIT.
    Jr is such a fuckin’ moron and hates the fact those boys adore their mother and sees the unconditional love that is expressed ever second of ever day between you and your boys and he does not that have gift as he only bribes, threatens and critizes.
    I swear I don’t know how you did it for so long staying with that control freak.
    I’m just happy that you are out of that situation as much as possible and at least now happy!!!

  3. Don’t ever forget the fact that your kids are not stupid. They will see right through him. They know who’d there for them. It may not happen right away but it will happen. If he thinks it won’t he’s going to be a lonely old man – which, franly, I think he deserves to be.

  4. T… the best part of this is that you KNOW you’re a good mother. ANY parent that would say those things to a kid (whether the comments are true or not) does NOT have that kid’s best interest at heart.
    I’ve never met the man, but he stinks of resentment. I think he feels humiliated, thinking that people will think there was something wrong with HIM and that’s what’s caused the change of direction your life has taken. I’ve hesitated typing that line because I can’t find the right words at this moment to say it in a politically correct way. Because he sees your life as “wrong”, he can’t see past the nose on his face. I read a statment before, and I might have even put it here in reference to one of your posts, but I’ll do it again because it is so poignant… “If a child can’t look up to his father, he’ll never be able to look up to any man because he’ll never have a frame of reference to what a “good” man is”. I don’t entirely agree with the statement, but I do agree with the sentiment… every child needs a good female AND male role model in their life, otherwise they have nothing to aspire to. Your children will compensate, because you’re teaching them patience, love and virtue through your own daily life. They will have Lori, too… so they can see how a loving relationship operates, and will know that it’s not about putting eachother down and discovering who’s at fault.
    Hold your head up high! No matter how tough this battle is, know that your kids love you and know exactly how much you love them… in spite of that pig’s pitiful (and obvious) attempts to sway their opinion.

  5. BlueWolf darling-you know what I want to say [here] *s*
    Jamie-I have no clue myself…
    Shelagh-truer words were never spoken, I do hope when they’re older they understand better, right now I’m not sure 🙁
    Kristi-if you had tried to be ‘politically correct’ I would have bopped you one!
    and I agree with you, I completely think that’s what he thinks, the sad thing is the type of ‘home’ we had our children in, was the same kind he was raised in…

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