I find it interesting that you’re told not to share something with me because she’s afraid of how I’ll react, good for you for not listening to that, after I asked how she was doing.
You should know me well enough to know better, she doesn’t know me at all so probably shouldn’t tell my wife not to share something with me unless she want’s me to feel that there’s something to worry about…or if she wants to feel like you share a secret together.
She doesn’t know me well enough to know that this game she is playing is not one she will win, I don’t play fair, and I don’t know her well enough to give a shit about her.