When I was a kid, it was common for men who had been accused of rape to get off scot free by using the defense that “She ASKED for it.” Specifically, I’m thinking of the cases where the men suggested that the woman’s manner of dress advertized her availability.
Kids today bare the oddest body parts. The girl’s clothing is very revealing, while the boys are wearing baggies that cover them from elbow to toe. Are the girls going to be accused of “asking” to be molested because they dress in what seems to be the fashion of the day?
Fashion and youth can be a scary mix. Part of our nation is very body conscious. Thinner is better, and clothes that show off how thin you are validate that premise. To be popular, you have to resemble the models in the magazines, or the young Hollywood stars. Young girls believe that what they see and read must be the real world. Sports Illustrated does an annual swimsuit issue that flies off the shelves. Does the moral climate in our entertainment world foster the idea that women who don’t dress modestly are available to any man who wants them?
I have a series of questions about this. Do you think that women “Ask” to be molested by the clothes they choose to wear? Should we allow men to be excused for rape or molestation based on this arguement? Is there a point beyond which a man cannot control himself in relation to a woman?
I’d like to live in a world where, when a female says “NO!” the man accepts her word without question. And, if my body is saying “yes,” but my mouth is saying “no,” don’t argue with my mouth. I’d also like to have faith that men can control themselves. Is that unrealistic?
Tell me your thoughts.

I have writers block. I didn’t think it would come so soon. Usually I have loads of things to chat about, but I can’t find anything worthy of a full post.
I guess it’s time to learn the art of pastiche.
I was visiting Jamie’s blog and discovered that she was talking about the possibility of abortion being repealed in the U.S. This is an incredibly volatile subject, but I agree with her stand. I think women should have the right to choose what happens to their bodies. If a change is coming with respect to this bill, I hope they merely modify it, allowing women who have been raped the right of abortion. I agree that abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. We have enough birth control options open to us that there is no reason for a thinking woman who is choosing to have intercourse to be unprepared.
Along these lines, I’d like to see our welfare system modified. I was appalled to learn that there are generations of women on welfare, who gave birth to children in their teens, and their children had babies in their teens, and now the GRANDchildren are having children in their teens. There’s something wrong with a system which keeps replicating the very problems we hope to cure. I’m willing to support a teenager long enough to get them through a training program or college course so that they can find a paying job. I am NOT willing to pay taxes to support a woman who chooses to have lots of children by multiple fathers.
This is what I propose: support for a specific period of time, for the mother and one child, child care during that period, and vocational training or two years of college. Should the mother choose to have another child during this period, her welfare rate would NOT increase: no additional income for additional children. It’s time to make people responsible for their choices. I know this is a hard stand, and that it appears to make the children suffer, but I can’t think of any other way to make the recipients of welfare want to be OFF welfare! What do you think?
The “Q” section of my Sunday Tribune yielded some interesting figures from a poll on infidelity. The following figures show the percentage of respondents who strongly agree that the following acts cross the line of infidelity when not done with a spouse or a partner:
Oral Sex
Men—-85% Women—-93%
Cybersex
Men—42% Women—-64%
Kissing
Men—51% Women—-69%
I rather understand the figures for cybersex and kissing, but I really wonder about the men and women who felt oral sex wasn’t cheating. They must all be related to Bill and Hillary Clinton…..
There’s an interesting discussion going on over at Mad Bull’s blog. He wonders how many sex partners the average person has. Dr. D posted in a comment that the World Health Organization defines as promiscuous a person who has had 6 (six) or more sexual partners in a LIFETIME. There goes the neighborhood! On Dr. D’s blog, the discussion is all about frequency of sex. Why is it that partners so frequently don’t agree on what is right? I know that raising a family, or not having enough privacy enter into this issue, but for people who don’t have those reasons, why do we change?
Okay…..I know you’re saying that I don’t have writer’s block, but I do. Give me time, and I’ll work my way out of this. My youngest sister’s daughters are coming to visit for a week. They are 12 and 13. I may not have a lot of time to post, but I suspect that I will have plenty to say after the visit! We hope to make at least one trip to Chicago for some live theater and a stroll on Navy Pier. I’m sure there will be shopping and miniature golf, maybe even laser tag. Any advice on how to entertain these girls will be greatly appreciated!