Most of you who have come to read know that Elegante Mother is developing dementia. I'm at the point where I have to begin a series of tasks that I'd like to stave off.
Tuesday, My-Sister-The-Nurse, our brother, and I will be visiting the lawyer to discuss the subject of elder law in relation to Elegante Mother. Should EM outlive her liquid assets, we have to know what steps are necessary to ask Medicaid to take over her care. EM is presently living in a senior retirement village with 24/7 care.
Unfortunately, I think it's also time to speak with funeral home personnel to determine what we need to do to set up funeral plans. We have been advised by a number of people that we have to have these plans and funding in place before we speak to Medicaid.
EM's demise is not imminent. I think she may be with us for some time to come, and that's why I have encouraged my siblings to gather the information we will likely need. I think we need to give her assets and her care the same diligence we would give our own.
It's very difficult to be thinking about these subjects in relationship to my mother. It's very difficult to be pragmatic when in my mind I'm thinking, "I can see you in there, come out and play!" I see the flash of intelligence, the quirk of humor, the raised eyebrow that was so EM, every now and then, but soon, even those brief glimpses will go. And it's best that we be prepared.