I've found an advice column that I really enjoy. "Ask Amy" appears in the Chicago Tribune. Amy Dickinson writes a daily column in a fresh way. She clearly has a sense of humor, which she uses liberally, but she is usually spot on with her suggestions.
Saturday, November 22, she responded to a question about wedding ettiquette. I'm not sure if I agree with her or not. A woman who has married a man with grown children wrote for help. His daughter and his wife do not get along. He is paying for half the wedding, but his daughter has made it clear that his wife is NOT invited. Daddy told his daughter that she is wrong, and that she should be civil and include his wife. The daughter refuses.
Amy started out by asking "Why on earth would you want to attend the wedding of someone you clearly can't stand and don't speak to?" Her heart went out to the dad, who is caught in the middle of this crisis. She gently chided the writer, and the bride for behaving badly, and then suggested the writer find something really fun to do the day of the wedding and give her husband the break he deserves.
I'm not sure she was right. I think the bride is definitely wrong. I realize that it is the bride's big day, but the bride is merely using this situation to play a nasty game of one upsmanship. It strikes me that she is incredibly spoiled, to have her father pay for half the wedding, and then announce that his wife is not allowed to attend.
The worst of it is, any retaliation on the part of the wife may ultimately end up with her becoming the EX-wife. So, perhaps she needs to take Amy's advice, go and have a great day somewhere else, and meet her husband at the end of the day to compare notes. I suspect the wife is going to have the better day.
What do YOU think???