I was visiting at Dr. D’s and saw a link to a post by Dominatrix at the Tower of Babel. She was writing about the difficulty a successful working woman has in finding a husband. She’s figured out that she needs to find a self-confident man who won’t be threatened by her success. Do you have a list of requirements in a mate?
When I was a kid, I expected that I would marry tall & dark, and if he was also handsome, that was a bonus. I come from a very tall family, and Dad had black hair, so my expectations came from what I knew. When I married the first time, my husband was just two inches taller than I, and his light brown hair was already disappearing. Our marriage didn’t fail because he didn’t meet my girlish expectations; it failed because we were unable to communicate.
So…..should I have had a grocery list of what I was shopping for in a mate? Should I have determined his fiscal responsibility, his five and ten year plans, his vocation and avocations, religion, education, family? What about his ability to speak to me of hopes and fears, his health, or his plans for children? What about sex….does he have fetishes, or is he so conservative that we will die of boredom?? Can he allow me freedom, or is he jealous or manipulative?
I think you have to whittle your list down to the items that you can’t live without, because it’s unlikely you will find your dream man. If you find that he has some of the “extras,” so much the better. My advice to you is that you shouldn’t assume a mate will compromise with you, or change to suit your wishes or needs. If you can’t find the right man where you live, then expand your search area. If you are willing to move, then consider looking for a mate on-line. I know an incredible number of couples who met on-line, and I’m beginning to think the anonymity we have as we first chat may be a healthy thing. We talk about things in depth that it would take much longer to get to face to face.
When I was divorced, I swore I wouldn’t marry again. It took three years before DH caught my attention, and what caught me was his sense of humor.
Who knew??? Add it to your list of essential qualities! *S*

Boooooooooo Hoooooooooo
Buffy the Vampire Slayer is coming to an end. Not that I watched it or anything…..
Here are 10 one liners we won’t forget, courtesy of the Chicago Tribune, Arts & Entertainment Section, Sunday, May 18, 2003:
1. “Comfy? I’m chained in a bathtub drinkin’ pig’s blood from a novelty mug. Doesn’t rank huge in the Zagat’s guide.” –Spike
2. “She just left. She didn’t even care enough to cut off my head or set me on fire. I mean, is that too much to ask? You know? Some little sign that she cared?”–Spike
3. “We’re drawing up a plan for world domination. The key element? Coffemakers that think.”–Riley
4. “Testosterone is a great equalizer. It turns all men into morons.”–Giles (THIS IS MY PERSONAL FAV!)
5. “You’re not, by any chance, betraying your secret identity just to impress, um, cute boys, are you?”–Giles
6. “We can’t run. That would be wrong. Could we hide?”–Willow
7. “Why go to all the trouble to dig up three girls only to chop them up and throw them away? It doesn’t make any sense. Especially from a time management standpoint.”–Buffy
8. “You don’t just sneak up on people in a graveyard. You make a noise when you walk. You…stomp. Or yodel.”–Buffy
9. “Eww! Why is it that every conversation you poeple have has the word ‘corpse’ in it?–Cordelia
10. “I don’t like vampires. I’m going to take a stand and say they are not good.”–Xander
There you have it…..the highlights of seven years of screen time! Kinda makes you wonder how they became a cult favorite.
I suppose this is the appropriate place to tell how I came to be called “Buffy.” About four years ago I decided that I was going to enter the life of on-line chatting. The very first obstacle I faced was the need for a nickname to get into the chatroom. You got it……in the background “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” was playing, and I borrowed her name. At the time it seemed reasonable. I had no idea that so many people would come to know me as “Buffy.” I am as unlike Sarah Michelle Gellar as a woman could be, but she provided a lot of cover, and some very stupid one liners, during my chatting days. I finally got tired of the masquerade and fessed up to being a “mature suburban matron” *G* but the name stuck. I truly envy those of you who are quick witted and can come up with repartee for every situation. Maybe if I associate with you a little of it will rub off. Until then…..”Hi! I’m Buffy!”

Did you ever have to dissect something in biology class? As I recall, we had to cut up dead worms. Our biology teacher should NEVER have been allowed near kids. He took pleasure in making the weakest of us squirm and was vindictive and sarcastic. He managed to rise to the level of Principal, so he could affect larger numbers of students. 🙁 I suppose that we were lucky that we only had to work on worms. If we had had to cut up a frog, I would have been kicked out of school for refusing to do it.
I was pondering just why we need to disect things. I realize that the hope is that we will understand more thoroughly with a first hand experience, rather than merely reading about it. But most of us aren’t ever going to see the inside of a worm again. The closest most of us get to frogs once we leave school, will be running them over with the car. So, WHY do we waste so many days playing with sharp knives?
It occured to me that I might have been able to protest having to disect anything. Of course, that wasn’t done in the middle ages, but if I had been pushed into cutting up a frog, I might have tried it. I wonder if a kid has done just that somewhere, creating a precident?
We could accomplish the same learning experience with latex models which could be assembled and disassembled. Since the models are reusible, the cost for class supplies would go down. The knives could be kept locked away and the school’s insurance bill would go down. And, consciencious objectors would have nothing to complain about!
I vote that disection be limited to science and medical classes and butchers, and not required of high school students.