If you have been in, or are in, a long term relationship, have you ever hit a point where you didn't have the faintest idea what to get your significant other? I've gone from knowing what DH would enjoy to not having a clue. He's become like my Dad.......if he doesn't have it, you can't afford it. Dad wasn't a materialistic person, and neither is DH. It's terribly difficult to buy a gift that matters, and I hate to give a gift just because the day demands it.
I hate to admit it, but Martha Stewart might bail me out this time. With Father's Day coming up, she suggested using a picture frame with six openings, and filling five of the spots with pictures of his kids growing up. THe sixth spot has a message...you know.....Happy Father's Day, 2003! Or something a little more personal. If I featured pictures of his daughter this year.....and one of the boys each of the next three years, and his grandson the following year, I could stretch this out for FIVE YEARS!!! YES! Now what do I do for his birthday, and Christmas, and our anniversary???
How do you let your significant other know what you might like to have? Do you get a lot of goofy gifts? I know that there are women out there who have threatened mayhem if they receive another appliance for Mother's Day, and frankly, I don't blame them in the least! My ex-mother-in-law received a robe every Christmas, year after year. For Mother's Day, she got a bottle of perfume. I couldn't believe she didn't find a way to guide her husband in his gift giving, but now I find the same thing has happened to me. Maybe I just don't have enough "I wants."
I'm at the point in my life where more time together, or quality time, is what I really want. A long weekend trip would be lovely. A visit to the Antiques Fair, or maybe a weekend of estate sales, or visiting Salvage One would be fun. So would strolling a riverwalk, entertaining friends, or playing Spite and Malice. I don't need a mink.....or a BMW. Diamonds would be kinda nice.....but time is what I'd really like.
If you happen to see DH sailing by.....whisper in his ear.......
Comments (8)
Remind him about that long awaited trip to Jamaica!
Posted by Dr. D. | May 26, 2003 11:46 PM
Posted on May 26, 2003 23:46
hey... Dr. D has a very good idea, that way you'd have time together and get to see what seems like a most awesome part of our planet! If not a trip to Jamaica a new BBQ? That is what Hubby is getting (well, did get in advance actually.)
Posted by Desiree | May 27, 2003 1:20 AM
Posted on May 27, 2003 01:20
good hint Dr. D, I'm already working it, between him, Buffy, and DH well I'm the only one saying can anyone here me scream WE NEED A VACATION? LOL
Hey MOM thanks for the heads up on a GREAT gift for daddy for Father's day any ideas on Speed????????? I always turn to you for ideas on what to buy for gifts, if you are at a loss, I'm screwed!!!!! My gifts I want, I purchase ahead of time to arrive in time enough for the event *S*...........like my birthday.......going to the Eagles in concert yeah baby....had to make sure Speed was significantly liquiroed up, half asleep and snoring and say I can get tickets can I buy them for my birthday present *BIG GRIN* hell it is working right now so I went with it...........LOL.........for DH buy boat things...whatever those are...LOL.......Call soon mom we miss ya!!!
Posted by Jamie | May 27, 2003 4:32 AM
Posted on May 27, 2003 04:32
Jamie.....DH has so many boat things, it's a wonder the boat hasn't sunk! I've stopped getting him boat things just to get him a gift, and he hasn't told us what he would like to have. The man has TWO hand-held GPS devices, and FOUR leatherman tools, and he just got a new dodger in May.
Personally, I think a trip to Jamaica would be lovely, in January or February!
Get Speed a DVD player for Father's Day. It's the only thing I can think of. Did he really WANT a grill?? How about a Weber cookbook to go along with the grill? www-webergrill.com
Posted by Buffy | May 27, 2003 11:09 AM
Posted on May 27, 2003 11:09
Dating makes buying gifts for guys even harder than usual. What do you get your latest guy for Christmas when you've been dating him for two weeks? Here's hoping things work out for me with my guy this time, not that its any easier to find things for my brother and dad~lol!
Posted by Allison | May 27, 2003 11:18 AM
Posted on May 27, 2003 11:18
Oh, MAN, Allison! Having to buy a Christmas gift for a boyfriend of just two weeks has to be about the worst! Guys don't like fuzzy toys and sex toys aren't really appropriate for a Christmas gift that might be opened in front of the family. Just what DID you get him?? You have my best wishes for a LONG relationship. *S*
Posted by Buffy | May 27, 2003 3:58 PM
Posted on May 27, 2003 15:58
I've always found the most wonderful gifts are the ones that come from the heart. S gave me a little hand written journal/book for valentines day that had 100 things he loved about me and our relationship. Things like the way my face looks when he wakes me up, or how he loves that I'm the first person he wants to see when he starts the day and the last person he wants to hold before he goes to bed. So romantic. I read it and cry at least once a week. Also important to note he filled up every page which was more than 100, when I asked why he did over 100, he said, he could have done a million. Warms my heart everytime.
Posted by Drowning Fish | May 27, 2003 10:18 PM
Posted on May 27, 2003 22:18
Drowning Fish.....that's the kind of gift EVERY woman would love to have. It represents the emotional, romantic side of the relationship that we all crave, and frequently don't get to experience. DH did something similar our first few years. He hand wrote notes to me, with terrible doggeral.....and I loved it.
Posted by Buffy | May 27, 2003 11:02 PM
Posted on May 27, 2003 23:02