Arrrgh!!!

I was recently reading about a woman who had been married for thirty-five years to a man who abused her. He broke her arm, her shoulder, her jaw and a couple of ribs.

I've read enough psychology to understand that there is a dynamic in that relationship that keeps her in place. But for the life of me I can't understand why you would make excuses for, and stay with, a man who HURTS you!! I know that she believes she deserves this treatment, and that it's HER fault he does these things, but what I can't understand is why she didn't get out after the first instance of abuse.She must have been trained as a kid that she was worthless to have lasted so long in a dreadful situation like this. I wonder if counseling is of any use at this point?

I know that when you are alone with a man who is in a rage, it's not worth fighting back. I also know that many women put up with an attack to divert the man from hurting their children. But, once the attack is over, all you have to do is bid your time and walk away. Why are we not teaching our children to do that?

I have on-line friends in similar situations, and I do everything I can to encourage them to GET OUT!! I'm surprised that women's groups haven't been more successful in helping women out of these situations, or even better, putting an end to the attacks. I think that penalties for crimes against women are woefully light. If we could change the legislation, perhaps men would think first before they strike.

Have you ever helped someone put an end to abuse?