Why do weddings make me cry?? At a time when everyone else is quietly happy, I'm sitting there trying to sureptitiously staunch the flow of tears. It's not that I'm not happy for the bride and groom; I LOVE the ceremony, and have faith that they are doing a good thing. I guess it's just an overload of emotion. Whatever, it's sure a mascara nightmare!
Today, DH and I will be going to the wedding of the daughter of one of my quilting buddies. I've never met the girl, and I'm likely to cry! lol Today is Friday, and the wedding is at 4:30 in the afternoon. Doesn't that strike you as a dificult time?? It's so early that most of the guests won't be off work yet, but it was the only slot the church had open when the bride chose her date. It seems we've come to a time when the actual ceremony is less important than the reception or dinner following it.
DH's daughter is getting married May 31st. This month is going to FLY by. I figure I finally have to give up and do the Spring cleaning I've skipped for the last 14 years. The out of town guests will be invited to our house between the wedding at noon, and the reception at 5:00. I've been working in the gardens for a month already, and I have LOTS more to do. A shipment of bare-rooted plants came in on Wednesday, so I have to get them in the ground tomorrow or risk loosing them.
My stepdaughter chose to be married in an historical chapel. They are allowing them two hours...that's from the moment they begin setting up the flowers, to the moment we are out the door. Just TWO HOURS! Talk about feeling rushed. And since the only slot left was at noon, there's a long wait until the reception. Still, I think she's made good choices. We just have to adapt, as my friend and her family are doing.
My youngest sister went with me shopping for a dress. I had hoped to be in a sage green dress, or perhaps something in plum. Both of those colors are in the beading on the bride's dress. Unfortunately, the only dress that looked decent was black. It's a long black tube, with an over tunic in black and silver and sparkles. I've been obsessing about it, because first of all, I wasn't sure about wearing black to a wedding. THEN, I worried about wearing something so glitzy at noon. We've solved the issue, I think. The groom's mother is wearing a black and white knee length dress. I'm going to find a white jacket and wear that over the black dress for the wedding, and then she and I will be dressed in the same colors, and both our husbands will be in black tuxes. She will be changing for the reception, and I will ditch the white jacket, and put on the glitzy black and silver top. I'm feeling much better about this. Now, I just have to find a jacket, shoes, jewelry and a slip! (Sorry guys.....be happy I didn't go any further into those details! lol)
Oh!.......And waterproof mascara!
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.
Comments (6)
Ohhh stop worrying about the dress ~ when my brother got married my mama wore a black beaded dress with a black and white hat. She looked wonderful, however, I did have to get a few digs in about black at a funeral oooppssss wedding. *sorry couldn't resist* however black is no longer the taboo for weddings it is considered a very classy fashion statement. Best waterproof mascare on the market is by Max Factor called Stretch and Separate. Have fun in the gardens and house cleaning......*S* did you get the closets done yet?
Posted by Jamie | May 2, 2003 4:06 PM
Posted on May 2, 2003 16:06
I can say that if anyone were to get married at 4:30 PM on Friday here, there would be very few people in attendance. That is really not a convenient time. Hope you enjoyed the ceremony and didn't drown the bride and groom in tears!:-)
Posted by Dr. D. | May 2, 2003 8:27 PM
Posted on May 2, 2003 20:27
Hope you're having a great time at the wedding! I'm going to get something to eat, I'll check back later... tho' its unlikely you'll be back tonight, right?
Posted by Mad Bull | May 2, 2003 9:17 PM
Posted on May 2, 2003 21:17
I'm 'maturing'... weddings do that to me too. I haven't been to a whole lot of weddings lately, but when I do go I find my eyes become wettish (I don't sob, but become on the brink of crying)I feel emotion through my being when at a wedding. I think that perhaps part of the emotion may be a link back in our minds to our own happy day - however far back it is, remembering and realizing how much time has passed, realizing how terrific it is to have made it so far past that begining, feeling a genuine happiness for the couple that are saying "I do" that they now get to share that special bond of husband and wife and hope with these 'near tears' that they will survive the long and short of marriage; the happy, the sad; the sickness, the health; the richness and poorness --- all that marriage can be.
Posted by Desiree | May 2, 2003 11:29 PM
Posted on May 2, 2003 23:29
Jamie, Thanks for the advice on the mascara. I'm not obsessing about the dress; I feel better now that I've made a decision.
Dr. D., I think fewer than half the people were able to make it to the wedding, but considering the time of day, it was reasonably well attended. I'm proud to say I didn't flood the premises! lol
Mad Bull, no.....we didn't make it back early enough last night for me to return to the computer. The reception was wonderful! The meal was superb and the music was fine! Fred and I rarely dance these days, and even WE spent a little time on the dance floor. I'd say a good time was had by all. :-)
Desiree...I think you hit the nail on the head. We were seated at the back of the church on the bride's side and I had a good view of almost all the women seated in front of me. I think easily two thirds of them quietly wiped away tears after the bride walked up the aisle with her father. None of us sobbed, we just quietly commemorated the joy of our own weddings. *S* I think that maybe I was reminded of my Dad, too, who passed away a number of years ago. I don't think these emotions are in any way bad, it's just that they seem to come more easily now that I'm "mature." Thanks for the post.
Posted by Buffy | May 3, 2003 3:15 PM
Posted on May 3, 2003 15:15
It was your post, Buffy, that I was responding to. Glad to hear that you survived the wedding, and that memories were relived. :-)
Posted by Desiree | May 4, 2003 12:33 AM
Posted on May 4, 2003 00:33