…with a husband who won’t let you help him?

Dear Husband has been ill off and on this week.  There’s a terrible upper respiratory thing going around, and just as it seemed that DH was on the mend and back to his old self, he came down with this dreadful cough.  He wheezes, and coughs, and struggles to breathe and won’t let me help him.  At the very least a cup of hot tea, or hot water, or cocoa…or SOMETHING HOT, would help relax his chest and throat and perhaps help to clear his sinuses, but he refuses.  Even a warm shower would help.

We’re on the edge of my forcing him to visit the doctor, and he won’t like it at all.  But, I don’t think he is showing good sense right now.

I understand that he is an adult, and has the right to make decisions for himself, but doesn’t there come a time when you can tell the choices your loved one is making are not in their best interest?

My husband is half German, half Sicilian.  I think that may be one of the most stubborn mixes of nationalities that exists.  He is very hard-headed.  I’m generally willing to let him make decisions, but when we differ in our paths, he usually wins because he simply refuses to negotiate.  That can get old.

Any suggestions for improving our interaction?