{"id":46,"date":"2002-08-05T04:36:48","date_gmt":"2002-08-05T04:36:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.redeaglespirit.com\/blog\/?p=46"},"modified":"2002-08-05T04:36:48","modified_gmt":"2002-08-05T04:36:48","slug":"just_friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.redeaglespirit.com\/blog\/just_friends\/","title":{"rendered":"just friends"},"content":{"rendered":"

gOdOfMiScHiEf<\/a> had a really interesting topic<\/a> while I was surfing my reads this morning (more on why I’m up at this ungodly hour later)
\nbasically (I think) hes asking ‘can men and women be friends?’
\nin my previous single days (before I was married) I had mostly male friends. these were just friends, nothing romantic about them. when I made the mistake of getting married all of that ended. for no known reason except “a married woman shouldn’t do that” I was no longer allowed to speak to another guy who was not a family member much less have one as a friend…lmao..I’m sure if he knew then what he knows now he wouldn’t have worried about me talking to any guy! (women would have been another matter entirely however)
\nI’m sure most of this topic has to do with trust, do you trust the person you’re with enough to allow them the freedom to be friends with whatever sex they are attracted to sexually? (or for my response this is how I’m going to take said topic)
\nI would have to say that depends on the people involved..from the comments<\/a> I see whoever was the inspiration for this has allot of friends (of the sex she is attracted to) and an ex who cheated on her..this I have a problem with, not only the ‘whats good for the goose is not good for the gander’ aspect but making someone else pay for a crime that is not theirs to pay for.
\nif you trust your partner, it shouldn’t matter who their friends are…this goes if you are bi, gay or straight..if you don’t..well why are you with them? and also if you don’t is it really their<\/i> fault or someone else’s?
\nlet me close with this, I trust my partner impeccably, and I believe she does me also, if we have a problem with a friend of the others we talk<\/b> about it..that is the key to a good relationship.
\ndo I trust my ex? no, never did, and obviously he never did me either (based on history) and we see how that ended
\nI think its just a matter of trust, and communication..and whether you know how to do both..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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