There isn’t really enough time this evening to write about this as fully as I’d like, but I want to tell you about a conversation I had this week.
\nFirst….a little explanation. I’m a grandmother. When I married DH, he presented me with a ready-made family, who were well on their way to being adults, so I was a grandmother at a rather early age. Since I have been a step<\/b>-grandmother, I sent a lot of love my grandson’s way, and tended to keep my hands off his little psyche as he grew up. Unfortunately, his mother died last year.
\nIt’s been a hellish year for him, and maybe moreso for his father. It’s been difficult for the two of them to talk to each other. I have been worrying about both of them for some time, and this week, my grandson was with us. I bided my time, and waited until I had him captive in the SUV….and then asked him if his father had talked to him about sex.
\nHe’s seventeen! He probably knows more about sex than I do, but I wanted to be sure that someone had talked with him about SAFE sex. I wanted to be able to tell him that making love is stupendous when you do it with someone you love, and I wanted him to know that all you see on the internet is not necessarily what the average person believes is good and appropriate.
\nHe gets MAJOR credit for not blushing or shrinking away from me. He was really cool about this, and relaxed. He told me that he had not talked with his dad, but that his mother had talked with him. And, he described the sex ed classes they have at his school. The classes were pretty astounding, and I’m glad he had them. Too many parents and schools let kids promulgate errors, and then chastise them for their behavior, when they didn’t have enough information to make the right choices.
\nI wanted my grandson to know that he could talk to me forthrightly about this subject, if he needed an adult to talk to. I’m realistic about the fact that he is not likely to talk to me…..but the door is open if he so chooses. I hope he will remember what I said when it comes time to make his choices.
\nMy friends were kidding me tonight, asking if they could send their kids to me for a talk. Heck…..why not!? I’m an old hand at this now! (HUGEGRIN)
\nSooooo….have you given this talk? Was it difficult or easy for you? Do you think it made any difference in the choices your child will make? Do you think some children find it easier to talk to someone other than their parents? Guys….did you leave this discussion for your wife to do?? Let me know what you think.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
There isn’t really enough time this evening to write about this as fully as I’d like, but I want to tell you about a conversation I had this week. First….a little explanation. I’m a grandmother. When I married DH, he … Continue reading