{"id":39,"date":"2003-05-21T22:16:29","date_gmt":"2003-05-22T05:16:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.redeaglespirit.com\/arrrgh\/mates\/"},"modified":"2003-05-21T22:16:29","modified_gmt":"2003-05-22T05:16:29","slug":"mates","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.redeaglespirit.com\/arrrgh\/mates\/","title":{"rendered":"Mates"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was visiting at Dr. D’s and saw a link to a post by Dominatrix at the Tower of Babel<\/a>. She was writing about the difficulty a successful working woman has in finding a husband. She’s figured out that she needs to find a self-confident man who won’t be threatened by her success. Do you have a list of requirements in a mate?
\nWhen I was a kid, I expected that I would marry tall & dark, and if he was also handsome, that was a bonus. I come from a very tall family, and Dad had black hair, so my expectations came from what I knew. When I married the first time, my husband was just two inches taller than I, and his light brown hair was already disappearing. Our marriage didn’t fail because he didn’t meet my girlish expectations; it failed because we were unable to communicate.
\nSo…..should I have had a grocery list of what I was shopping for in a mate? Should I have determined his fiscal responsibility, his five and ten year plans, his vocation and avocations, religion, education, family? What about his ability to speak to me of hopes and fears, his health, or his plans for children? What about sex….does he have fetishes, or is he so conservative that we will die of boredom?? Can he allow me freedom, or is he jealous or manipulative?
\nI think you have to whittle your list down to the items that you can’t live without, because it’s unlikely you will find your dream man. If you find that he has some of the “extras,” so much the better. My advice to you is that you shouldn’t assume a mate will compromise with you, or change to suit your wishes or needs. If you can’t find the right man where you live, then expand your search area. If you are willing to move, then consider looking for a mate on-line. I know an incredible number of couples who met on-line, and I’m beginning to think the anonymity we have as we first chat may be a healthy thing. We talk about things in depth that it would take much longer to get to face to face.
\nWhen I was divorced, I swore I wouldn’t marry again. It took three years before DH caught my attention, and what caught me was his sense of humor.
\nWho knew??? Add it to your list of essential qualities! *S*<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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