This weekend, the Petite Filet and Cutlet are leaving AGAIN, this time to go to a baby shower for one of the PF's best friends. My family will be gone only two days, but it's hard because it's two days I'm essentially "off work." Of course, ever since we bought a house four years ago, "off work" means working on some aspect of our property. Oh well, I suppose this will be another weekend of great progress on that front. *Sigh*
Because of the Petite Filet's continual travel this month, we are postponing a planned five-year wedding anniversary trip until next month. We were married on April 24, 1999, in Tulsa, Okla. That night, we drove to a small town north of Tulsa and stayed in a fabulous bed-and-breakfast. My plan had been to book a night in either the same room or maybe the best room that place has. We still may do that, it just won't be on April 24.
This is the first year the date has once again fallen on a Saturday since we were hitched – so that means we can at least get a baby-sitter and have a night on the town. Fifty years is a golden anniversary, twenty-five years is silver. Is five years mulch? If so, I'm all set for that.
Marriage is a constant learning process, but here's some of what I've already learned in five years of matrimony:
1. It's best to go to bed at about the same time, or else one or the other person will start snoring and keep the other one awake.
2. Lovin' is more likely if you're both awake in bed at the same time, or well-rested in the morning.
3. It's too easy to do something stupid, so don't. Before taking a misstep, concentrate on how it would make your spouse feel, and then focus on how you'd feel if your spouse did what you are considering. This applies to both cheating and buying a motorcycle.
4. Never stop kissing each other, holding hands and saying, "I love you." As time goes on, all these things become more important.
5. Divide chores by who does what best, not by gender stereotypes or one person's simply not wanting to do something.
6. Do something unexpected every once in a while. It doesn't necessarily need to be a gift – could be flowers or a little note left where you're significant other will find it.
7. Time flies whether you're having fun or not. Make each day count.
8. You think you love somebody will all your heart until you have a child together. Then you realize you've got a lot of heart left.
9. You've really got to take time to focus on your relationship, especially after having a child. Daily life tends to mask the importance of this anyway.
10. You almost can't go wrong if you marry your best friend.*
*In many cases. Some restrictions apply. Void where prohibited.
you hit the nail on the head with #1, I come home late from the studio and the wife is sawing away.
#3 - I recently thought about buying a motorcycle, the wife agreed, we used to have one BK (before kids) and had a blast.
#5 - i love doing laundry, it's therapeutic folding clothes, but I rarely have time and the wife doesn't like my technique, "whites go with whites and darks go with darks". apparently there are differences. go figure.
#8 - for sure.
hey, CONGRATS on the wedding anniversary!!! wishin u both many many MANY years of bliss! :)
Congrats on 5 wonderful years! My parents just celebrated 31 years; they say it keeps getting better.
T-Bone - absolute congratulations on your upcoming 5th anniversary. Wedding anniversary tips on line (http://www.weddingtips.com/annv.html) lists "wood" as the traditional 5th year gift, and "silverware" as the modern 5th year gift. I gotta tell ya, if I was the Petit Filet I wouldn't want either of those.
great words of wisdom/advice, T. Tuesday the 20th marks our 2nd anniversary. It's amazing how easy everything has come for us in these first 2 years. We're looking forward to the years ahead. Congrats on your upcoming anniversary!!!!
It gets more challenging to keep those things up after 10 years, but we're trying!
Many happy thoughts for your upcoming anniversary! I am a veteran of a couple of marital wars, so yes, it definitely is important to remember your spouse deserves your best. Gets too easy to blame, to take a relationship for granted. Like plants, love has to be nurtured to grow and stay strong. Wishing you and Mrs. T. a big bag of Miracle Gro!