I've been thinking about this resolution thing again. I'm trying to avoid the typical resolutions - or wish listing - that I usually do at this time of year. Partly because it seems they same one appear on the list every year; partly because I sense it is that way because I'm not really getting at the core of what resolutions I really need to make.
My first resolution could be summed up by stating that I want to accept less. Not EXPECT less - I'm a big believer in goals. I think we have to have something to shoot for. But I think we stress ourselves out - even disappoint ourselves when we don't meet the very letter of those goals or resolutions. I'm suggesting that in shooting for a lofty goal that the very progress we make toward it is worthy of praise and acceptance.
My second resolution is to make do with less. The corollary of this would be to strive to be happy with what I have. I remember about 12 years ago that I just HAD to have a ring wrap for my engagement ring. It was a beautifully designed wrap with two rubies and a diamond. Reluctanly, my husband consented to buying it for me for Valentine's Day. I was so pleased that I was misty-eyed. I spent much time the first few weeks stealing glances at it. I found that the ring didn't snuggle well with my engagement ring. In fact, it rocked and rubbed and wouldn't sit next to it at all. I paid more money to have it soldered to the engagement ring. In doing so, the arc which wrapped around the marquis "sat up" which would - and still does to this day - grab at all sorts of things. I can't count the number of pantihose ruined because of this ring, nor the number of snags I've pulled in my sweaters.
I HAD to have this ring. It brought more expense and more problems. I still think it's pretty. I also think it's a metaphor for how we sometimes pine for things we're better off without. I wear it and remember this lesson when I HAVE to have something new.
I resolve to not just be happy but to truly find value and joy in the things I do have and to find ways to live without what I don't.
Gee, Frankie, I can't imagine what you are thinking--that any of the rest of us should have ever wanted something that turned out to be not-so-good for us!??! Been there, done that, in spades! Anticipation is so much nicer than fulfillment, sometimes. I like your resolution.